Nicole Thomte, LMFT

Nicole Thomte uses she/her or they/them pronouns and practices as an LMFT - a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - licensed in Minnesota (MN LMFT 3853). Nicole centers clinical work on people, couples, and families who live outside dominant social expectations, offering affirmative and sex-positive therapy that respects diverse identities, relationship structures, and sexual expressions. She brings a solution-focused orientation informed by an intersectional feminist lens and emphasizes inclusive care for LGBTQIA+ clients, kink and BDSM communities, consensually non-monogamous and polyamorous relationships, and other nontraditional relationship arrangements.

Nicole’s approach is non-directive and exploratory, prioritizing the client as the expert in their own life while assisting in identifying patterns, connections, and practical steps toward change. She acknowledges the role of humor in easing life’s stresses and prefers to focus on what clients bring to sessions rather than relying solely on diagnostic labels. Her work includes attention to trauma and abuse, grief, chronic pain and illness, gender dysphoria, communication challenges, and a wide range of mood and anxiety concerns.

Choosing therapy as a third career, Nicole has extensive experience working with underserved populations. Her clinical background includes agency work following approval for a state intern license in 2013 and longterm involvement in supervision groups and survivor-focused group facilitation beginning in 2012. Over that time she facilitated groups and provided individual, couples, and family therapy, learning from survivors of gender- and sex-based violence, sex workers, gender-diverse young people, and families of sex- and gender-diverse individuals. That practice shaped a strong commitment to advocacy for marginalized communities.

Nicole integrates client-centered methods with evidence-based techniques such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Motivational Interviewing, Solution-Focused Therapy, and Trauma-Focused Therapy. She frames her work as compassionate and driven advocacy, offering an accepting clinical presence aimed at helping clients create the changes they seek in their lives.